I Do

At night I like to tell dave that he is a good man and he has blessed me that day. I think of one thing specifically that he has done or said during the day that I am grateful for. It reminds me to not be flippant with what I say. It also reminds me of how much I value who he is. I have been saying lately, ‘thanks for doing life with me.’ It just occurred to me that in our vows to each other we say ‘I do.’ How often do I forget the I do, and gravitate towards the I do not. Instead of doing life together, my selfishness, vanity, and pride become a distraction. Do I become a hindrance, a stumbling block, a hurdle to dave moving forward in life? Do my words and actions build or tear down? Do I play mind games, baiting him for failure? Do I take flight when things become tense, or do I fight for this relationship. Do I get so wrapped up in cara’s world, that I lose sight of his needs? Do I pray for him throughout the day? Do I want the best for him? What other do’s am I missing? What am I doing well? What are we doing well?
I am continually in awe that we can do life together. thanks